How I'm coping mentally being an invisible man in New Zealand

[MelaninWarlord]

This video, "How I'm coping Mentally being an Invisible MAN in New Zealand" from the channel CLATYR, is a philosophical discussion on the speaker's current life in New Zealand, focusing on mental coping mechanisms and his perspective on relationships and societal expectations.


Here are the key points from the video:

• Coping with Invisibility: The speaker describes his existence as an "invisible man" in New Zealand, which he defines as having limited options for deep social connections and a lack of spontaneous, positive "magic" happening in his social life [00:38]. He contrasts this with an earlier time in his life where he did experience that "magic" [01:32].
• The Blessing of Non-Commitment: He states he is a very "blessed person" with something non-material that many people lack [03:50]. His life is "relatively empty" of commitments and responsibilities, which he did on purpose, noting that many people ruin their lives with obligations like mortgages or dependence on women [05:12].
• Relationships as a Trap: He views being invisible to young women as "wonderful" [07:53]. He argues that the idealization of women and romantic relationships is a societal construct designed to "drain men's power resources and mental strength" [08:10]. He views the pursuit of women as a "waste of time" and a form of "nature manipulation to procreate," which is often fueled by temporary brain chemistry and societal norms [10:44].
• The Pain of Loneliness: He shares stories of other men who compromise on their partners or take on complex family situations to avoid the "ridiculously painful experience" of feeling lonely [15:15], even if the situation is likely to end badly [22:55].
• Healing Through Isolation: Being in the social isolation of New Zealand gives him the opportunity to resolve his feeling of loneliness "once and for all" without using temporary "reliefs," like finding a new partner [24:16]. He states he is grateful for being invisible because it allowed him to heal his weakness of wanting a committed partnership [32:51].
• The Purpose of "Being": The speaker argues that the societal pressures to achieve, prove, or conquer are "complete nonsense" [27:25]. He believes life is simple, like for animals, and one should just focus on "being" and covering the basics (safety, food, water) [28:41]. He concludes that meaning in life is not found but is simply assigned by choice to whatever one chooses to do [29:02].

 

[MelaninWarlord]