I want to get married but I don't feel mature enough

[MelaninWarlord]

Gabriel al romaani

The video titled "I want to get married, but I don’t feel mature enough, what do I do?” by Gabriel Al Romaani addresses the common feeling of being unready for marriage and offers practical advice for preparation.


Here is a summary of the key points from the video:

The Misunderstanding About Readiness​

• Perfection is not required [00:32]. Most people mistakenly think readiness means being "perfect, financially stable, emotionally bulletproof, [and] spiritually on top of your game."
• The Prophet's teaching on readiness focuses on the ability to afford it (to marry), which means having reached a level of responsibility and restraint needed to lead a household [00:45].
• Readiness is about the willingness to grow and take responsibility, not about achieving perfection [01:12].

Preparation for Brothers​

If a brother feels unready, the video suggests using that feeling as a starting point to build character:

• Train your body: Hit the gym and build consistency. Strength brings discipline, which builds leadership [01:23].
• Train your brain: Read, study, and develop yourself intellectually in the religion (the deen). A leader without knowledge can lead his family into confusion [01:32].
• Train your communication: Learn to speak with confidence, to listen, and to understand women with wisdom, not just emotion [01:40].
• Train your soul: Pray on time, read the Quran, and protect your eyes [01:49].
• You become ready by building yourself while walking towards marriage, not just by waiting [02:07].

Preparation for Sisters​

The preparation for sisters is also emphasized as important:

• Take care of your health: Physical energy affects emotional energy, helping to handle family life with patience [02:18].
• Learn household management: This includes cooking, cleaning, and creating a calm and peaceful home environment [02:24].
• Grow your knowledge: Learn about the Quran, marriage communication, men's psychology, and your rights and responsibilities [02:41].
• Build emotional maturity: Learn how to respond, not react, and the ability to stay calm in conflict [02:57].
• The mature wife is the one who knows how to keep learning after nikah (marriage) and follow the rules of Allah [03:04].

Conclusion​

Marriage is intended to help you grow into maturity and find tranquility (sakinah), but this requires both people to enter it intentionally with effort [03:22].

• If you feel unready, don't panic, but don't stay still [03:44].
• Make dua daily (supplication) asking Allah to help you mature, have wisdom, and have strength [03:48].
• Start by picking one habit—such as going to the gym, reading Quran, or journaling—and stick to it. As you see progress, plan for the next habit, and then plan for marriage [03:55].

You can watch the video here: “I want to get married, but I don’t feel mature enough, what do I do?” | [WATCH NOW!]

 

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Gabriel al romaani

The video titled "I want to get married, but I don’t feel mature enough, what do I do?” by Gabriel Al Romaani addresses the common feeling of being unready for marriage and offers practical advice for preparation.


Here is a summary of the key points from the video:

The Misunderstanding About Readiness​

• Perfection is not required [00:32]. Most people mistakenly think readiness means being "perfect, financially stable, emotionally bulletproof, [and] spiritually on top of your game."
• The Prophet's teaching on readiness focuses on the ability to afford it (to marry), which means having reached a level of responsibility and restraint needed to lead a household [00:45].
• Readiness is about the willingness to grow and take responsibility, not about achieving perfection [01:12].

Preparation for Brothers​

If a brother feels unready, the video suggests using that feeling as a starting point to build character:

• Train your body: Hit the gym and build consistency. Strength brings discipline, which builds leadership [01:23].
• Train your brain: Read, study, and develop yourself intellectually in the religion (the deen). A leader without knowledge can lead his family into confusion [01:32].
• Train your communication: Learn to speak with confidence, to listen, and to understand women with wisdom, not just emotion [01:40].
• Train your soul: Pray on time, read the Quran, and protect your eyes [01:49].
• You become ready by building yourself while walking towards marriage, not just by waiting [02:07].

Preparation for Sisters​

The preparation for sisters is also emphasized as important:

• Take care of your health: Physical energy affects emotional energy, helping to handle family life with patience [02:18].
• Learn household management: This includes cooking, cleaning, and creating a calm and peaceful home environment [02:24].
• Grow your knowledge: Learn about the Quran, marriage communication, men's psychology, and your rights and responsibilities [02:41].
• Build emotional maturity: Learn how to respond, not react, and the ability to stay calm in conflict [02:57].
• The mature wife is the one who knows how to keep learning after nikah (marriage) and follow the rules of Allah [03:04].

Conclusion​

Marriage is intended to help you grow into maturity and find tranquility (sakinah), but this requires both people to enter it intentionally with effort [03:22].

• If you feel unready, don't panic, but don't stay still [03:44].
• Make dua daily (supplication) asking Allah to help you mature, have wisdom, and have strength [03:48].
• Start by picking one habit—such as going to the gym, reading Quran, or journaling—and stick to it. As you see progress, plan for the next habit, and then plan for marriage [03:55].

You can watch the video here: “I want to get married, but I don’t feel mature enough, what do I do?” | [WATCH NOW!]

I know most are gonna D N R your post because it's chatGPT but the topic given is a REAL issue, lot of people feel pressure on them to have kids or get married early but if you do either of or both of those things then not only would you be harming yourself but you'd be harming both your spouse and/or your child(ren). It's OKAY to not settle down with a 6 figure salary by 30, many children grow up in broken homes which sadly more often than not leads them to growing up to be criminals or just bad people in general.