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<blockquote data-quote="Deleted member 258" data-source="post: 33816">What do you all feel about being openly emotional? I feel like there&#039;s a pretty commonly-held belief by men that being emotional in front of women in particular is bound to backfire eventually. In other words, they&#039;ll weaponize it against you at some point in the future, even if it&#039;s not a conscious decision for them.I used to somewhat view this idea with contempt, but the more I turn it over in my head, and the more I set it against my own experiences, the more empathetic I have grown towards it. Hell, I&#039;d even take it a step forward and argue that men shouldn&#039;t necessarily show their emotions to anyone for the same justifications, even other men.I think we&#039;ve somehow yet to reach a point where a man can reasonably feel unperturbed in wearing his emotions on his sleeve; society&#039;s standards around it are still grotesquely hypocritical, and there may be something deeply rooted in people that causes this.I am not advocating for men to suppress their emotions completely because doing so is impossible; however, I do think men are fairly justified in feeling cautious about being open with their emotions at all.Would love to hear any of your guys&#039; thoughts about this since my thinking about this is still relatively immature.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Deleted member 258, post: 33816"] What do you all feel about being openly emotional? I feel like there's a pretty commonly-held belief by men that being emotional in front of women in particular is bound to backfire eventually. In other words, they'll weaponize it against you at some point in the future, even if it's not a conscious decision for them. I used to somewhat view this idea with contempt, but the more I turn it over in my head, and the more I set it against my own experiences, the more empathetic I have grown towards it. Hell, I'd even take it a step forward and argue that men shouldn't necessarily show their emotions to [I]anyone[/I] for the same justifications, even other men. I think we've somehow yet to reach a point where a man can reasonably feel unperturbed in wearing his emotions on his sleeve; society's standards around it are still grotesquely hypocritical, and there may be something deeply rooted in people that causes this. I am not advocating for men to suppress their emotions completely because doing so is impossible; however, I do think men are fairly justified in feeling cautious about being open with their emotions at all. Would love to hear any of your guys' thoughts about this since my thinking about this is still relatively immature. [/QUOTE]

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