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As of late I've seen really bad life advice on this forum so wanted to make a thread giving some actual useful advice as there don't seem to many good threads on this currently, this applies to all men to be honest but I've directed this thread more at autists as many of you are on the spectrum and can be easily led down a bad path if not careful.
1. Learn a Martial Art Over the Gym
Now, don't get me wrong, I love the gym. It helps me unwind, get rid of excess energy, and allows me to develop a better body, however if I had little money and had to pick between the two I would pick a martial art any day. Why is this? I feel when you're a sperg being able to fight is more valuable than getting the extra muscle, if you can do both then that's great but you've got to understand as an autistic individual you'll be picked on for life, bad actors will pick up on your odd traits and will try and start shit with you for the sake you're different, and in some cases try to assault you. I've had times when people have tried to fight me at work as I've given them the same shit they were throwing at me back, and while defused usually as no one wants to lose their jobs sometimes you have no choice and will have to fight. What's one way to stop this entirely though? Looking like and making it clear you can kick someone's shit in as people won't start on you in the first place, the point of knowing how to fight isn't beating up people but making it so you're not a target in the first place, I watched a video on this recently and it really explains this theory well, very much worth the watch:
2. Not Everyone will Like you for who you are and that's ok, don't suck up to these people
Simply put, if you display autistic traits some normies will not like you by default and you need to move on and never try and please these people. Sure, sometimes you have no choice as you have to study or work around them and minimal interaction is fine, but never attempt to get close as they made their mind up on you from the start. More you try more the more they will mock you for it and sometimes you just gotta accept some people are deadends and invest more who care about you as being around people who make you miserable is never worth it and sometimes being alone is better than playing the jester
3. Don't Change your Hobbies to Please Other People
Common trend I'm seeing is people thinking they have to give up their hobbies to please women/other people, either it's seen as childish or lame or whatever, and that they should start other hobbies to impress other people. While learning a new hobby is always awesome to do and I encourage it, fuck giving up what *you* enjoy because others may find it cringe, you do realise if a friend is truly your friend or if a girl truly loves you they couldn't care how you choose to enjoy your free time? This isn't the 2000s where liking stuff like anime would get you swirly in the bathroom, nerd culture is fairly normalized and celebrated now, and even then who are others to dictate what you can and can not enjoy? As long as it isn't illegal and downright degenerate, and you're being productive in your day then watch that anime, play that game, and collect that card, others have an issue then that's tough.
4. Avoid Getting into Politics like the Plague
Something that I see quite tragically is autistic men being dragged deep into political movements, left and right though mostly right. Though there's nothing wrong with being politically informed I highly recommend you do not go further than educating yourself at home. I say this because autistic men benefit very little from political activity in real life and if anything are used as cannon fodder for more powerful men, some political figures (not naming names) have even said they use incel guys as footsoliders and care very little for them. Though I can understand some guys go for these movements as they are lonely and want to meet like-minded people you've got to understand these are not social clubs, these are political campaigns done by people who want to change their country and because of that have very real enemies that want to do what they can to ruin them and any known members, places such as Europe you can even get into legal trouble depending where you lean and leaders have been known to throw people under the bus when the going gets tough. You can easily lose work, friends, and opportunities from getting too deep into political activity and it's really not worth it especially if you're miserable as is, and let's say your movement does win, what will even change for you? You'll still be seen as odd, women will probably think the same of you, and at most you've just helped greater men get the power they need who will then ignore you once their objectives are met. Fuck that, why fight battles for normies who won't appreciate it? Work on yourself and focus on what you enjoy and meeting people in healthier ways such as shared hobbies and interests, and if you want to fight to help anyone let that be the people you care and love about as those are who that matter the most, not these political charlatans that will backstab you when you're not deemed as useful anymore.
5. Never Overshare with Those You Don't 100% Trust
Unfortunate trait I see among autistic guys is that they overshare too much, wherever it be their interests, politics, or ambitions. Some people, especially coworkers who are never truly your friends or even classmates who you get on with but are not all that close with, you've got to learn to shut up around. They don't need to know everything about you nor you need to know everything about them, it's ok to lie and make stuff up as if you don't trust their fully as a friend they can and will use shit against you if conflict does arise, never give those who could potentially screw you over material that could be used against you or it can easily become your ruin socially. I'd wager even with certain friends be careful as you never know, but yeah we have all made this mistake of oversharing and getting into trouble over it so for the future just learn to be vague about what you truly believe and what you enjoy with certain people and learn who you can be honest with you as it can save you.
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That's all for now, maybe I'll expand more on this when more advice comes to mind but I just wanted to share this based off experiences I've had and I hope it helps some in improving and bettering their social interactions and personal development down the line. Feel free to share your thoughts and criticisms below as I'll be happy to read them.
1. Learn a Martial Art Over the Gym
Now, don't get me wrong, I love the gym. It helps me unwind, get rid of excess energy, and allows me to develop a better body, however if I had little money and had to pick between the two I would pick a martial art any day. Why is this? I feel when you're a sperg being able to fight is more valuable than getting the extra muscle, if you can do both then that's great but you've got to understand as an autistic individual you'll be picked on for life, bad actors will pick up on your odd traits and will try and start shit with you for the sake you're different, and in some cases try to assault you. I've had times when people have tried to fight me at work as I've given them the same shit they were throwing at me back, and while defused usually as no one wants to lose their jobs sometimes you have no choice and will have to fight. What's one way to stop this entirely though? Looking like and making it clear you can kick someone's shit in as people won't start on you in the first place, the point of knowing how to fight isn't beating up people but making it so you're not a target in the first place, I watched a video on this recently and it really explains this theory well, very much worth the watch:
2. Not Everyone will Like you for who you are and that's ok, don't suck up to these people
Simply put, if you display autistic traits some normies will not like you by default and you need to move on and never try and please these people. Sure, sometimes you have no choice as you have to study or work around them and minimal interaction is fine, but never attempt to get close as they made their mind up on you from the start. More you try more the more they will mock you for it and sometimes you just gotta accept some people are deadends and invest more who care about you as being around people who make you miserable is never worth it and sometimes being alone is better than playing the jester
3. Don't Change your Hobbies to Please Other People
Common trend I'm seeing is people thinking they have to give up their hobbies to please women/other people, either it's seen as childish or lame or whatever, and that they should start other hobbies to impress other people. While learning a new hobby is always awesome to do and I encourage it, fuck giving up what *you* enjoy because others may find it cringe, you do realise if a friend is truly your friend or if a girl truly loves you they couldn't care how you choose to enjoy your free time? This isn't the 2000s where liking stuff like anime would get you swirly in the bathroom, nerd culture is fairly normalized and celebrated now, and even then who are others to dictate what you can and can not enjoy? As long as it isn't illegal and downright degenerate, and you're being productive in your day then watch that anime, play that game, and collect that card, others have an issue then that's tough.
4. Avoid Getting into Politics like the Plague
Something that I see quite tragically is autistic men being dragged deep into political movements, left and right though mostly right. Though there's nothing wrong with being politically informed I highly recommend you do not go further than educating yourself at home. I say this because autistic men benefit very little from political activity in real life and if anything are used as cannon fodder for more powerful men, some political figures (not naming names) have even said they use incel guys as footsoliders and care very little for them. Though I can understand some guys go for these movements as they are lonely and want to meet like-minded people you've got to understand these are not social clubs, these are political campaigns done by people who want to change their country and because of that have very real enemies that want to do what they can to ruin them and any known members, places such as Europe you can even get into legal trouble depending where you lean and leaders have been known to throw people under the bus when the going gets tough. You can easily lose work, friends, and opportunities from getting too deep into political activity and it's really not worth it especially if you're miserable as is, and let's say your movement does win, what will even change for you? You'll still be seen as odd, women will probably think the same of you, and at most you've just helped greater men get the power they need who will then ignore you once their objectives are met. Fuck that, why fight battles for normies who won't appreciate it? Work on yourself and focus on what you enjoy and meeting people in healthier ways such as shared hobbies and interests, and if you want to fight to help anyone let that be the people you care and love about as those are who that matter the most, not these political charlatans that will backstab you when you're not deemed as useful anymore.
5. Never Overshare with Those You Don't 100% Trust
Unfortunate trait I see among autistic guys is that they overshare too much, wherever it be their interests, politics, or ambitions. Some people, especially coworkers who are never truly your friends or even classmates who you get on with but are not all that close with, you've got to learn to shut up around. They don't need to know everything about you nor you need to know everything about them, it's ok to lie and make stuff up as if you don't trust their fully as a friend they can and will use shit against you if conflict does arise, never give those who could potentially screw you over material that could be used against you or it can easily become your ruin socially. I'd wager even with certain friends be careful as you never know, but yeah we have all made this mistake of oversharing and getting into trouble over it so for the future just learn to be vague about what you truly believe and what you enjoy with certain people and learn who you can be honest with you as it can save you.
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That's all for now, maybe I'll expand more on this when more advice comes to mind but I just wanted to share this based off experiences I've had and I hope it helps some in improving and bettering their social interactions and personal development down the line. Feel free to share your thoughts and criticisms below as I'll be happy to read them.
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