Why are 63% young men single

[MelaninWarlord]

In this video, Kait Ann-Michelle discusses the psychological and social factors contributing to why 63% of young men in the U.S. are single. She focuses on how modern cultural shifts, digital platforms, and legal structures have impacted gender dynamics.

1. The Impact of Social Media
Attention Economy: Women often garner significantly more attention and engagement on visual platforms like Instagram and TikTok [01:40]. This can lead to an inflated ego and a focus on aesthetics as a primary source of value [04:13].

Toxic Narratives: The amplification of radical or extremist voices on social media can portray men as inherently oppressive or irrelevant [05:33]. This contributes to a "victimhood" narrative for women and growing resentment among men who feel marginalized [05:48].

2. Dating Apps and Rejection
The Odds Gap: Men on dating apps face a steep uphill battle, often needing 40 swipes to get a single match, whereas women match roughly 50% of the time [00:07].

Paradox of Choice: Because women have access to a high volume of matches, they may struggle with commitment, always looking for a "better" option [11:41].

Aesthetic Devaluation: Men who possess great character but may not be "conventionally attractive" are frequently overlooked, leading to feelings of inadequacy and mental health struggles [09:51].

3. Hypergamy and Standards
Definition: Hypergamy is the tendency for women to "date up" in terms of status, IQ, or wealth [12:54].
Modern Disconnect: As women become more financially independent and educated, their pool of "higher status" partners shrinks [14:19].

Unrealistic Expectations: Many men feel that no matter their accomplishments, they can never meet the rising standards set by modern dating culture [13:54].

4. Divorce Laws and Financial Risk
Legal Disparity: Divorce laws regarding alimony, child support, and property division often place a heavy burden on men, even when they were the sole providers of those assets [17:08].

Loss of Fatherhood: The judicial system frequently favors mothers in custody battles, which can lead to men losing access to their children and experiencing severe emotional distress [17:44].

Risk vs. Reward: The high risk of losing financial stability and family access makes marriage seem like a "bad deal" for many men, leading them to opt out of serious relationships entirely [21:16].

5. The Demonization of Masculinity
Toxic Labeling: Traditional masculine traits like leadership, assertiveness, and competitiveness are often unfairly criticized as "toxic" in modern discourse [24:42].

The "Patriarchy" Narrative: Men are frequently portrayed as the root of societal ills, which creates a hostile climate that discourages cooperation between genders [25:44].

Conclusion: The video argues that both genders are suffering from these polarized dynamics. While it's easy to blame one side, the speaker suggests that true fulfillment often comes from a committed, honest relationship, but the current "extremist boxes" we put each other in make that increasingly difficult to achieve [29:37].

Source: Why Are 63% of Young Men Single? Pt 2

 

[MelaninWarlord]