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In my youth peak I was a 6'4 roided HTN with a slight underbite that held me back from feeling complete
During this time I went clubbing regularly and had a jack the lad persona from alcohol and was just frequently in positions that were conducive to having compliments come my way from time to time.
As a former incel the compliments that came my way about my looks were validating and I seen it as the result of the work I put in to ascend.
I couldn't keep going on chasing MTB slays as an underbitecel though as I felt I had to ascend to the next level by getting jaw surgery which I did.
My slaying career ended in 2020 and despite my attempts to reignite it in 2024 after the swelling had gone down post surgery, I wasn't able to reignite it despite looking much better because my heart wasn't in it and I couldn't spend the time in the trenches getting drunk every week to try rediscover my mojo in terms of the behaviour that used to allow me to slay girls, I became a standardcel who didn't want to pursue a girl unless I thought it could lead to a decent Fuckbuddy and this mindset left me incel because I never mastered it before with my previous mindset being to club hard and fuck everything I could until a decent looking foid happened to be the one who got in the way then I would briefly feel it's partially worth all the effort.
I say all this to paint he picture of how when i was putting myself in the environment for foid interactions constantly, compliments on my looks came my way from time to time and I built up a validation bank that allowed me to think: this is how x amount of foids felt about me in my first peak
In my second peak post jaw surgery however, I only recieved 2 solid compliments about my looks from strangers as I was going out less often but it felt like the world had completely changed whereby my entire package wasn't considered entertaining or attractive enough to warrant me receiving a compliment on my appearance in the foids mind.
One of these compliments only came as a result of me pushing the foid to explain why she ran off on me, she wouldnt have told me otherwise.
I want to make it clear that I am fully at peace with my looks and no longer need external validation over them
But if I lived an experience where I have a memory bank of validation from my first looks peak but then went years without any validation after my first looks peak ended but I then felt validation no longer mattered at that point coz I got enough validation from myself from looking in the mirror post ascension..
...how do Chads who legitimately descend from their first and only looks peak and go on to receive no compliments when they leave the dating/party scene cope having been showered in validation in their peak?
It most be more brutal for them to cope with than we like to think
During this time I went clubbing regularly and had a jack the lad persona from alcohol and was just frequently in positions that were conducive to having compliments come my way from time to time.
As a former incel the compliments that came my way about my looks were validating and I seen it as the result of the work I put in to ascend.
I couldn't keep going on chasing MTB slays as an underbitecel though as I felt I had to ascend to the next level by getting jaw surgery which I did.
My slaying career ended in 2020 and despite my attempts to reignite it in 2024 after the swelling had gone down post surgery, I wasn't able to reignite it despite looking much better because my heart wasn't in it and I couldn't spend the time in the trenches getting drunk every week to try rediscover my mojo in terms of the behaviour that used to allow me to slay girls, I became a standardcel who didn't want to pursue a girl unless I thought it could lead to a decent Fuckbuddy and this mindset left me incel because I never mastered it before with my previous mindset being to club hard and fuck everything I could until a decent looking foid happened to be the one who got in the way then I would briefly feel it's partially worth all the effort.
I say all this to paint he picture of how when i was putting myself in the environment for foid interactions constantly, compliments on my looks came my way from time to time and I built up a validation bank that allowed me to think: this is how x amount of foids felt about me in my first peak
In my second peak post jaw surgery however, I only recieved 2 solid compliments about my looks from strangers as I was going out less often but it felt like the world had completely changed whereby my entire package wasn't considered entertaining or attractive enough to warrant me receiving a compliment on my appearance in the foids mind.
One of these compliments only came as a result of me pushing the foid to explain why she ran off on me, she wouldnt have told me otherwise.
I want to make it clear that I am fully at peace with my looks and no longer need external validation over them
But if I lived an experience where I have a memory bank of validation from my first looks peak but then went years without any validation after my first looks peak ended but I then felt validation no longer mattered at that point coz I got enough validation from myself from looking in the mirror post ascension..
...how do Chads who legitimately descend from their first and only looks peak and go on to receive no compliments when they leave the dating/party scene cope having been showered in validation in their peak?
It most be more brutal for them to cope with than we like to think
