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<blockquote data-quote="MelaninWarlord" data-source="post: 53706" data-attributes="member: 428"><p>This video is a conversation titled <strong>"Why Fathers Matter - Dr Anna Machin"</strong> between host Chris Williamson and evolutionary anthropologist <strong>Dr. Anna Machin</strong>. The discussion challenges myths about fatherhood and explains the unique, essential biological, and social role of fathers in human evolution and child development.</p><p></p><p></p><h2>Key Insights from the Conversation</h2><p></p><h3>Challenging Myths and Biological Imperatives</h3><p></p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>Fathers Are Instinctive Parents:</strong> Dr. Machin argues that the idea that men are not instinctive parents is a "complete fiction" and one of the most damaging myths [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=66" target="_blank">01:06</a>]. She states that men are as <strong>biologically primed to parent as women</strong> are, and this myth only undermines a man's confidence [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=95" target="_blank">01:35</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>Fathers Saved the Species:</strong> Due to the evolutionary challenge of human bipedalism narrowing the birth canal combined with babies' increasingly large heads, human infants had to be born prematurely, making them helpless [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=174" target="_blank">02:54</a>]. Roughly 500,000 years ago, fathers had to step in and invest in their offspring to ensure their survival, preventing human extinction [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=245" target="_blank">04:05</a>]. This makes humans one of the only apes and a rarity among mammals (only 5% have investing fathers) [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=257" target="_blank">04:17</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>Testosterone Drops for Fatherhood:</strong> A man's testosterone, which is typically high to help him find a mate, <strong>drops significantly (up to a third)</strong> upon becoming a father and will not return to its pre-birth level as long as he remains in contact with the child [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4321" target="_blank">01:12:01</a>]. This physiological change reduces the blocking effect of high testosterone on bonding hormones, increasing motivation to care [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4783" target="_blank">01:19:43</a>].</li> </ul><p></p><h3>The New Father's Journey and Bonding</h3><p></p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>The Emotional Lag:</strong> New fathers often feel guilt and shame because they don't experience the immediate surge of bonding hormones that mothers do after childbirth [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4599" target="_blank">01:16:39</a>]. Dr. Machin stresses that this lack of immediate intense emotion is <strong>completely normal</strong> for men, whose bond is built through interaction and only accelerates after the baby is born [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4700" target="_blank">01:18:20</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>The Power of Skin-to-Skin Contact:</strong> It is critical for a father to have <strong>skin-to-skin contact</strong> with the baby immediately after birth [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5261" target="_blank">01:27:41</a>]. This is not routinely offered to men but is vital because it:<ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Allows the baby to smell and learn who the father is [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5304" target="_blank">01:28:24</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Triggers <strong>behavioral synchrony</strong>, causing the baby's physiology (heart rate, temperature, blood pressure) to match the father's [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5314" target="_blank">01:28:34</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Releases key bonding hormones like oxytocin and beta-endorphin [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5329" target="_blank">01:28:49</a>].</li> </ul></li> </ul><p></p><h3>The Father's Unique Developmental Role</h3><p></p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>Social Scaffolding:</strong> Evolution has designed the father's role to be a <strong>separate, unique, and important input</strong> [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4495" target="_blank">01:14:55</a>]. The father's primary function is to <strong>scaffold the child's entry into the world beyond the family</strong> [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5565" target="_blank">01:32:45</a>]. This includes:<ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Developing skills in <strong>social cognition</strong>, such as empathy, sharing, caring, and navigating the complexities of social life [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5536" target="_blank">01:32:16</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Building <strong>resilience</strong> to deal with challenge and failure [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5565" target="_blank">01:32:45</a>].</li> </ul></li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>Rough and Tumble Play:</strong> This is a crucial activity that starts around six to nine months and helps a child learn about <strong>reciprocity, social relationships, empathy, and risk assessment</strong> [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5815" target="_blank">01:36:55</a>]. It's a high-return-on-investment (ROI) bonding strategy for fathers who are often "time poor" in Western cultures [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5971" target="_blank">01:39:31</a>], as the physical activity causes a rapid release of bonding hormones [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5907" target="_blank">01:38:27</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>The Superhero of Mental Resilience:</strong> The relationship a child has with their father is the single biggest factor in their mental health during adolescence [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5841" target="_blank">01:37:21</a>], acting as the <strong>"superhero of mental resilience"</strong> for both boys and girls [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5847" target="_blank">01:37:27</a>]. This secure attachment is linked to higher self-esteem and lower rates of depression, anxiety, and loneliness in young adulthood [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=6235" target="_blank">01:43:55</a>].</li> </ul><p></p><h3>The Empathy Gap and Need for Support</h3><p></p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>The Zero-Sum Game of Empathy:</strong> Dr. Machin highlights the <strong>"gamma bias"</strong> or empathy gap where society struggles to offer support to men without seeing it as a "loss" for women [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=6840" target="_blank">01:54:00</a>]. This leads to men suffering from postnatal depression being told to "pull themselves together," a standard not applied to mothers [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=6957" target="_blank">01:55:57</a>].</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul"><strong>Need for Co-Parent Recognition:</strong> Governments and medical professionals need to recognize fathers as <strong>true co-parents</strong> [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=7202" target="_blank">02:00:02</a>]. Providing resources, like equal paternity leave, benefits children, reduces the career penalty for mothers, and is ultimately good for society [<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=7182" target="_blank">01:59:42</a>].</li> </ul><p></p><p>[MEDIA=youtube]4vN8XfMlWxI[/MEDIA]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MelaninWarlord, post: 53706, member: 428"] This video is a conversation titled [B]"Why Fathers Matter - Dr Anna Machin"[/B] between host Chris Williamson and evolutionary anthropologist [B]Dr. Anna Machin[/B]. The discussion challenges myths about fatherhood and explains the unique, essential biological, and social role of fathers in human evolution and child development. [HEADING=1]Key Insights from the Conversation[/HEADING] [HEADING=2]Challenging Myths and Biological Imperatives[/HEADING] [LIST] [*][B]Fathers Are Instinctive Parents:[/B] Dr. Machin argues that the idea that men are not instinctive parents is a "complete fiction" and one of the most damaging myths [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=66']01:06[/URL]]. She states that men are as [B]biologically primed to parent as women[/B] are, and this myth only undermines a man's confidence [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=95']01:35[/URL]]. [*][B]Fathers Saved the Species:[/B] Due to the evolutionary challenge of human bipedalism narrowing the birth canal combined with babies' increasingly large heads, human infants had to be born prematurely, making them helpless [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=174']02:54[/URL]]. Roughly 500,000 years ago, fathers had to step in and invest in their offspring to ensure their survival, preventing human extinction [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=245']04:05[/URL]]. This makes humans one of the only apes and a rarity among mammals (only 5% have investing fathers) [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=257']04:17[/URL]]. [*][B]Testosterone Drops for Fatherhood:[/B] A man's testosterone, which is typically high to help him find a mate, [B]drops significantly (up to a third)[/B] upon becoming a father and will not return to its pre-birth level as long as he remains in contact with the child [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4321']01:12:01[/URL]]. This physiological change reduces the blocking effect of high testosterone on bonding hormones, increasing motivation to care [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4783']01:19:43[/URL]]. [/LIST] [HEADING=2]The New Father's Journey and Bonding[/HEADING] [LIST] [*][B]The Emotional Lag:[/B] New fathers often feel guilt and shame because they don't experience the immediate surge of bonding hormones that mothers do after childbirth [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4599']01:16:39[/URL]]. Dr. Machin stresses that this lack of immediate intense emotion is [B]completely normal[/B] for men, whose bond is built through interaction and only accelerates after the baby is born [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4700']01:18:20[/URL]]. [*][B]The Power of Skin-to-Skin Contact:[/B] It is critical for a father to have [B]skin-to-skin contact[/B] with the baby immediately after birth [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5261']01:27:41[/URL]]. This is not routinely offered to men but is vital because it: [LIST] [*]Allows the baby to smell and learn who the father is [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5304']01:28:24[/URL]]. [*]Triggers [B]behavioral synchrony[/B], causing the baby's physiology (heart rate, temperature, blood pressure) to match the father's [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5314']01:28:34[/URL]]. [*]Releases key bonding hormones like oxytocin and beta-endorphin [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5329']01:28:49[/URL]]. [/LIST] [/LIST] [HEADING=2]The Father's Unique Developmental Role[/HEADING] [LIST] [*][B]Social Scaffolding:[/B] Evolution has designed the father's role to be a [B]separate, unique, and important input[/B] [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=4495']01:14:55[/URL]]. The father's primary function is to [B]scaffold the child's entry into the world beyond the family[/B] [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5565']01:32:45[/URL]]. This includes: [LIST] [*]Developing skills in [B]social cognition[/B], such as empathy, sharing, caring, and navigating the complexities of social life [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5536']01:32:16[/URL]]. [*]Building [B]resilience[/B] to deal with challenge and failure [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5565']01:32:45[/URL]]. [/LIST] [*][B]Rough and Tumble Play:[/B] This is a crucial activity that starts around six to nine months and helps a child learn about [B]reciprocity, social relationships, empathy, and risk assessment[/B] [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5815']01:36:55[/URL]]. It's a high-return-on-investment (ROI) bonding strategy for fathers who are often "time poor" in Western cultures [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5971']01:39:31[/URL]], as the physical activity causes a rapid release of bonding hormones [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5907']01:38:27[/URL]]. [*][B]The Superhero of Mental Resilience:[/B] The relationship a child has with their father is the single biggest factor in their mental health during adolescence [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5841']01:37:21[/URL]], acting as the [B]"superhero of mental resilience"[/B] for both boys and girls [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=5847']01:37:27[/URL]]. This secure attachment is linked to higher self-esteem and lower rates of depression, anxiety, and loneliness in young adulthood [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=6235']01:43:55[/URL]]. [/LIST] [HEADING=2]The Empathy Gap and Need for Support[/HEADING] [LIST] [*][B]The Zero-Sum Game of Empathy:[/B] Dr. Machin highlights the [B]"gamma bias"[/B] or empathy gap where society struggles to offer support to men without seeing it as a "loss" for women [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=6840']01:54:00[/URL]]. This leads to men suffering from postnatal depression being told to "pull themselves together," a standard not applied to mothers [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=6957']01:55:57[/URL]]. [*][B]Need for Co-Parent Recognition:[/B] Governments and medical professionals need to recognize fathers as [B]true co-parents[/B] [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=7202']02:00:02[/URL]]. Providing resources, like equal paternity leave, benefits children, reduces the career penalty for mothers, and is ultimately good for society [[URL='http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vN8XfMlWxI&t=7182']01:59:42[/URL]]. [/LIST] [MEDIA=youtube]4vN8XfMlWxI[/MEDIA] [/QUOTE]
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