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<blockquote data-quote="Actualized" data-source="post: 89511" data-attributes="member: 357"><p>I moved country in late spring this year with my plan for the move being that it would coincide with onset of summer so that I'd have peak motivation to socialize for several months after I arrive</p><p>The country is known for being pretty cold and asocial in the winter months so I planned to get a solid life setup going in summer while I'm still in my prime</p><p>Well summer is over now and here's how things went</p><p>I did my first street cold approach within the first 3 or 4 days of arriving and didn't do another one since</p><p>On previous holidays here I did 5 or 6 cold approaches on each trip, this time I stopped after 1</p><p>When I was on holidays it felt easier to do the approaches because I was gonna be leaving soon, when the place feels like my permanent home, there's no deadline urgency and I return to my natural high inhib state that I operate from in my permenant locations.</p><p>I went on 4 nights out in the first month then completely lost the motivation to continue</p><p>I slayed on my first night out with my very first approach (shit like that tends to happen when at peak novelty and excitemet) then susbequent nights can't match and I get no slays </p><p>I waited 2 more months to go on another night out, night went shit and I sperged out, took another long break from alcohol afterwards</p><p>I got barely any matches on dating apps but had a conversion to dates % I could only dream of in my home country </p><p>I got 3 meetups, 2 were MTBs with one being a LTB to normies but she had MTB appeal to me</p><p>I slayed the best looking one on our second meeting but it was a fairly shit slay </p><p>My initial Hinge boost wore off and I went from getting 15 matches on an account creation to 4 matches on an account creation so I deleted the app months ago</p><p></p><p>Basically all socializing I did happened within the first 6 weeks of moving, I just spent the summer inside working on projects on my computer that bring me fulfillment</p><p>My whole reason for moving during the summer season just went out the window as I wasted my summer after I got off the mark with the club slay and dating app slay which just served to prove that it was possible for me to still slay through my 2 life long methods in another country even though they gave barely any validation</p><p></p><p>On another forum a user who disliked me responded to one of my posts talking about how things were going to change for me when I move country as it was just my location that was holding me back, he said that my demons will forever follow me around then said "wherever he goes, he'll be there"</p><p>Those words were in fact true as I may be able to escape my default self for a holiday but when I make a place my home, my default self comes hom to roost</p><p></p><p>I just checked to see that it's been 2 months since my last post before today</p><p>2 months without feeling the need to make any kind of forum post is refreshing as it's now well and truly at of my system and with the sphere of bodybuilding evolving to looks forums turning to utter grabge, the quality man that was bred through these forums has become a relic</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Actualized, post: 89511, member: 357"] I moved country in late spring this year with my plan for the move being that it would coincide with onset of summer so that I'd have peak motivation to socialize for several months after I arrive The country is known for being pretty cold and asocial in the winter months so I planned to get a solid life setup going in summer while I'm still in my prime Well summer is over now and here's how things went I did my first street cold approach within the first 3 or 4 days of arriving and didn't do another one since On previous holidays here I did 5 or 6 cold approaches on each trip, this time I stopped after 1 When I was on holidays it felt easier to do the approaches because I was gonna be leaving soon, when the place feels like my permanent home, there's no deadline urgency and I return to my natural high inhib state that I operate from in my permenant locations. I went on 4 nights out in the first month then completely lost the motivation to continue I slayed on my first night out with my very first approach (shit like that tends to happen when at peak novelty and excitemet) then susbequent nights can't match and I get no slays I waited 2 more months to go on another night out, night went shit and I sperged out, took another long break from alcohol afterwards I got barely any matches on dating apps but had a conversion to dates % I could only dream of in my home country I got 3 meetups, 2 were MTBs with one being a LTB to normies but she had MTB appeal to me I slayed the best looking one on our second meeting but it was a fairly shit slay My initial Hinge boost wore off and I went from getting 15 matches on an account creation to 4 matches on an account creation so I deleted the app months ago Basically all socializing I did happened within the first 6 weeks of moving, I just spent the summer inside working on projects on my computer that bring me fulfillment My whole reason for moving during the summer season just went out the window as I wasted my summer after I got off the mark with the club slay and dating app slay which just served to prove that it was possible for me to still slay through my 2 life long methods in another country even though they gave barely any validation On another forum a user who disliked me responded to one of my posts talking about how things were going to change for me when I move country as it was just my location that was holding me back, he said that my demons will forever follow me around then said "wherever he goes, he'll be there" Those words were in fact true as I may be able to escape my default self for a holiday but when I make a place my home, my default self comes hom to roost I just checked to see that it's been 2 months since my last post before today 2 months without feeling the need to make any kind of forum post is refreshing as it's now well and truly at of my system and with the sphere of bodybuilding evolving to looks forums turning to utter grabge, the quality man that was bred through these forums has become a relic [/QUOTE]
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