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TL;DR At the bottom.
Before you say anything, yes, I did have clear and explicit permission from him to use this photo, and it was him in fact that told me to use his picture online to see what advice I could get for him.
But he's really insecure about being "ugly" and keeps calling himself ugly all the time, even when I try to cheer him up and tell him he's not ugly. And honeslty, despite beauty being in the eye of the beholder and everything, I unfortunately don't disagree. He's bald with a big red nose, and you may think he looks old but believe it or not he's only 34 years old. He just has a history of taking zero care of his body since childhood (including neglectful parents) and doing tons of drugs, eating tons of junk food, terrible hygiene, and never exercising.
The worst part though for me is his personality. He practically does nothing productive with his time. He claims to be "temporarily unemployed" but he's been unemployed for over 5 years now. He also keeps posting his selfies all over 4chan, and people on there have been making fun of him for over a decade and yet he keeps on posting. And he's terrible at talking to girls as well. He literally starts all conversations with women with "heyyyyy prettyy gurrrlll! I'm Ceciiiiil!"
And he chooses the literal worst and weirdest topics to talk about with women he doesn't even know. Like he tells them that as a kid his mother told him to always make a wish when an eyelash falls, so ever since then he's been yanking off all his eyelashes one by one every single day "to make lots of wishes." Another example being him telling them that he once owned a dog, cat, mouse, bunny, guinea pig, turtle, fish, snake, etc, all at the same time, and one time when drunk he let all those animals out of their cages and then he "saw the snake strangle the guinea pig to death, the cat eat the mouse in a very gorey fashion with blood and guts flying everywhere, the dog bite off the bunny's face off, etc."
I don't know if I 100% buy the story about the animals, he might be exaggerating the events for dramatic effect, but either way, why is he talking about these sort of topics at all with women he literally just met?! He says it's "because he likes to skip the small talk and talk about more interesting topics that few people talk about" but Jesus fucking Christ dude. How are you this stupid at 34 years old?!
But he refuses to change his personality and wants to work only on his appearance. And so here I am making this post asking you guys for advice. With this type of personality even if he was handsome he'd likely repel women, I know, but I'm writing this more just for his comfort and because he literally told me to (not necessarily this website in specific, just any website where I could get advice). I'm gonna show the advice you guys gave him afterwards, as he requested.
TL;DR That's him, yes, I got his permission. His personality is terrible but he refuses to work on his personality and only wants to work on his appearance. He calls himself ugly all the time and wants to know how he can improve his appearance. Also, you might think he looks much older but he's only 34. He grew up with parents who neglected his health and has done tons of drugs over the years, and always ate junk food and never exercised.
