I would suggest self-improvement. Hair and style could be a reflection of how a man carries himself. Once you attain that confidence from self-improvement, more of the answers will naturally come to you rather than having to get answers from others. You look relatively young, you got a lot of time to motivate yourself to grind hard and get that confidence. Stay up brother.
If you meditate enough, the "default mode network" (DMN) will start to reduce its activity which will rise to these states of "non-duality" where your body moves by itself and "you" realize you are not your thoughts. So, in my opinion, it is all about cultivating the right conditions in the present moment so that you can reap what you sow.