sounding like an autist with no flirting skills and ask boring generic questions?
This is the hardest thing. Even if you prepare and knock it out of the park online, you still going to have to perform offline.
I was talking to a white grandma who's much more over than this at the gym the other day. The whole time she was talking to me like a perspective mate. I'm surprised she continued talking to me that way till I left. Maybe she thinks I might be the next mass shooter so she's trying not to be a target. I dunno