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<blockquote data-quote="JayJay" data-source="post: 86384" data-attributes="member: 147">It&#039;s fucking over! I put a clickbaity title for people to get into my post but now I have received a genuinely hard question to answer! Oh my god <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite59" alt=":depression:" title="WojakDepression&nbsp; &nbsp; :depression:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":depression:" />.

Grief for the dead? Bro, fucking brutal man. It is something very existential you know because people become a source of meaning for you. As I had to deal with the loss of someone, it was just not dealing with the fact that such a person is not longer in my life, but what it all meant. There were expectations, desires, narratives that were unconsciously projected around such a being that I didn&#039;t even know. It is like I created an idea of this person that gave me comfort, but reality being impermanent it all comes crashing down. I don&#039;t think there is something bad with doing this because I think we humans are creators of meaning through projection on things or people we love, but you do really feel the ontological emptiness of the loss.

Bro, you want my honest answer? I don&#039;t think that there is no other way for grief to end than to get in touch with your feelings. Like you gotta go so deep into it, to be so intimate with yourself and the most difficult part is doing this many times and repeating it. I have myself employed a &quot;method&quot; that consists of using music to make it even more &quot;emotional&quot;. When that sadness or depression appears, I grab my earphones, put on a song about grief and I just meditate with it. I sometimes go really hard with this, doing gestures, contracting my stomach, trembling, whatever I can... The most brutal part is that this feels never ending sometimes, it can be very long.

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[QUOTE="JayJay, post: 86384, member: 147"] [JUSTIFY][I]It's fucking over! I put a clickbaity title for people to get into my post but now I have received a genuinely hard question to answer! Oh my god :depression:.[/I] Grief for the dead? Bro, fucking brutal man. It is something very existential you know because people become a source of meaning for you. As I had to deal with the loss of someone, it was just not dealing with the fact that such a person is not longer in my life, but what it all meant. There were expectations, desires, narratives that were unconsciously projected around such a being that I didn't even know. It is like I created an idea of this person that gave me comfort, but reality being impermanent it all comes crashing down. I don't think there is something bad with doing this because I think we humans are creators of meaning through projection on things or people we love, but you do really feel the ontological emptiness of the loss. Bro, you want my honest answer? I don't think that there is no other way for grief to end than to get in touch with your feelings. Like you gotta go so deep into it, to be so intimate with yourself and the most difficult part is doing this many times and repeating it. I have myself employed a "method" that consists of using music to make it even more "emotional". When that sadness or depression appears, I grab my earphones, put on a song about grief and I just meditate with it. I sometimes go really hard with this, doing gestures, contracting my stomach, trembling, whatever I can... The most brutal part is that this feels never ending sometimes, it can be very long. [/JUSTIFY] [/QUOTE]

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