Essay Don’t really fuck with incels anymore

[Amor Fati]

I’ve talked about the topic a number of times in the past but I guess I’ll elab on my overall view.

Nowadays I’ve more and more come to agree with D @Depresso stance that ‘incel’ is more a culture and identity, or at least it’s more accurate to refer to it that way when broaching the overall topic.

Proponents who advocate for using the strict definition of incel argue that the term itself is scientific and independent from any surrounding context but it doesn’t make sense to use it in that manner when there exists a community and culture which has sprung up around it, and people who actively adopt it as an identity and ingrain themselves in said culture.

It seems far-fetched to go along with the narrative that ‘inceldom’ is a plight affecting the common man, and the accompanying denouement of incel communities being the ‘light in the darkness’ for the bereaved individual.

While yes, male sexlessness and societal disadvantages exists, if we go by the textbook definition,

‘Incel A’, 31 years old, who is pursuing a doctorate in molecular biology, has a good relationship with his colleagues and strong family bonds, and regularly volunteers in events within his local community, but just so happens to be KHHV is the same as ‘Incel B’, 22 years old, KHHV, struggling to get by in college, regularly posts rants on incel forums, and thinks he is ‘enlightened’ for seeing the truth of the Blackpill that normies cannot.

There are hundreds of millions of ‘incels’ out there definitionally speaking, but incel communities only represent a small fraction of that number. When there exists a broader history, community and culture surrounding the context of that term, it
makes sense to be more narrow in specificity when using it in reference.

I’ve largely stopped engaging in those spheres, not because I’ve ‘ascended’ or anything, but because there’s not really any reason for me to continue identifying myself in that way or any value in participating in or adopting those cultural norms.

I think incel is a convenient identity to adopt, especially for young adults who’ve not had the most fortunate outcomes in life. I doubt being ‘incel’ is the largest problem in one’s life. If someone is wealthy, has a strong social support network, and is well-integrated into society, albeit being KHHV, I don’t think they’d be regular posters on incel forums, or even know what an incel is, for that matter.

Incels tend to face a myriad of other issues in their personal life. Not having a gf just seems to be the most salient effect of having troubled personal circumstances. Incel is an attractive and all-encompassing label to identify yourself as a victim of struggle in life.

I’m at a state in my own personal life where I no longer need to express grievances about various aspects of my life because my situation and prospects has improved greatly since then.

 

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Incel A doesn't exist.

 

[Amor Fati]

Incel A doesn't exist.

Elab, because there are hundreds of millions of sexless men who despite it are so-called ‘regular normies’ who participate in society.

The stereotypical mild nice guy in academia or a middling corporate role who doesn’t get any play is very real.

 

[Quintilian]

I’ve talked about the topic a number of times in the past but I guess I’ll elab on my overall view.

Nowadays I’ve more and more come to agree with D @Depresso stance that ‘incel’ is more a culture and identity, or at least it’s more accurate to refer to it that way when broaching the overall topic.

Proponents who advocate for using the strict definition of incel argue that the term itself is scientific and independent from any surrounding context but it doesn’t make sense to use it in that manner when there exists a community and culture which has sprung up around it, and people who actively adopt it as an identity and ingrain themselves in said culture.

It seems far-fetched to go along with the narrative that ‘inceldom’ is a plight affecting the common man, and the accompanying denouement of incel communities being the ‘light in the darkness’ for the bereaved individual.

While yes, male sexlessness and societal disadvantages exists, if we go by the textbook definition,

‘Incel A’, 31 years old, who is pursuing a doctorate in molecular biology, has a good relationship with his colleagues and strong family bonds, and regularly volunteers in events within his local community, but just so happens to be KHHV is the same as ‘Incel B’, 22 years old, KHHV, struggling to get by in college, regularly posts rants on incel forums, and thinks he is ‘enlightened’ for seeing the truth of the Blackpill that normies cannot.

There are hundreds of millions of ‘incels’ out there definitionally speaking, but incel communities only represent a small fraction of that number. When there exists a broader history, community and culture surrounding the context of that term, it
makes sense to be more narrow in specificity when using it in reference.

I’ve largely stopped engaging in those spheres, not because I’ve ‘ascended’ or anything, but because there’s not really any reason for me to continue identifying myself in that way or any value in participating in or adopting those cultural norms.

I think incel is a convenient identity to adopt, especially for young adults who’ve not had the most fortunate outcomes in life. I doubt being ‘incel’ is the largest problem in one’s life. If someone is wealthy, has a strong social support network, and is well-integrated into society, albeit being KHHV, I don’t think they’d be regular posters on incel forums, or even know what an incel is, for that matter.

Incels tend to face a myriad of other issues in their personal life. Not having a gf just seems to be the most salient effect of having troubled personal circumstances. Incel is an attractive and all-encompassing label to identify yourself as a victim of struggle in life.

I’m at a state in my own personal life where I no longer need to express grievances about various aspects of my life because my situation and prospects has improved greatly since then.

I think the blackpill became nessessary to talk about common issues which really weren't being talked about, such as women and relationships, specifically in regards how the sexes interacted and really views each other. In which case, there was an air if dishonesty of what people were really enduring, what took this to an unhealthy level is that the blackpill as a theory relies heavily on a material basis, such as evolution and genetics, which isn't 100% correct.

It reminds me of B.F Skinner, his behaviorism kept to the point, but failed to explain phenomena that goes beyond stimulus and response concepts. In my understanding, it responded to a problem which needed to be solved and it gave more or less a reasonably objective answer becuase they could accurately assess nerves and how the mind reacted to the environment. So they could essentially point their finger at what something really was without getting to theoretical or conceptual.