Before I used to cope that I could achieve those things by looksmaxxing. I've become more self accepting and realise now that it's a cucked mindset to have being an abused dog crawling back to the people who rejected you. Also they don't really have any value in the first place.
there's always a balance. you're right in saying it's a cucked mindset to be an abused dog crawling back.
there's two types of people; followers and leaders. leaders are practically incapable of serving under another person comfortably, in spite of their extreme cooperation skills that allow them to be leaders in the first place. leaders can vary in many ways, some being 'more important' than others in the societal sphere. (i.e. they will do the more important jobs). the overwhelming majority of leader's brains are simply not programmed to work in the herd, but to be the shepherd.
where does this relate to you? well, it's very possible that you yourself are incapable of fully merging with the society that rejected you in the first place. society really should be something you connect into and then disconnect from after you're done using it, like a service. i have a firm belief that you cannot work on yourself when you're plugged into everyone else. society has its uses and can be used for your benefit, you just have to learn to navigate it in your own way. value is present, which may be a given of course, but it's very case dependent.
honestly? you probably could still "looksmaxx" yourself into a visually appealing person, but that does not undo anything or reprogram you, it merely gives you a new coat of paint. you aren't the abused dog you claim to be outright unless you honestly view yourself that way. it's not a very flattering look for yourself and i'm sure you could work on that too. you are the sum of your parts, how could you be any more than you are if you are (apparently) a shitty person? i don't mean to make too many assumptions here but it seems like you're viewing it from a negative mindspace.
