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"Life is a prison" is one of those thoughts that hits hard when everything feels pointless, trapped, or exhausting. It’s a feeling a lot of people know intimately: the same routines, the same bills, the same body that ages and hurts, the same social scripts you didn’t write but are forced to follow. It can feel like you’re doing a life sentence with no parole, and the walls aren’t made of concrete; they’re made of time, biology, money, and other people’s expectations.
But here’s the weird part: the exact same conditions that make life feel like a prison (mortality, limited time, limited energy, limited freedom) are also what make anything in it matter at all. If life were infinite and consequence-free, nothing would ever feel urgent or precious. The bars create the intensity.
Some ways people cope with (or escape) the “prison” feeling:
Reframe the sentence: Life isn’t a prison you’re stuck in; it’s a very short work-release program. You get 80–90 trips around the sun, maybe less. Most prisoners dream of that kind of time outside.
Find or create meaning inside the walls: Viktor Frankl survived concentration camps by deciding that even when everything is taken from you, you still get to choose your attitude. Same applies to the smaller camps we live in.
Small jailbreaks: Fall in love, make art, help someone, get lost in a book or a forest, lift heavy weights, laugh until you cry. These moments don’t remove the walls, but they make you forget them for a while.
Radical acceptance + radical rebellion: Accept that some walls (death, aging, needing money) are immovable, then spend your energy smashing or tunneling through the ones that aren’t (toxic job, dead relationship, self-imposed rules).
If you’re in a place right now where the prison feels airless and dark, that’s real, and it’s okay to say it out loud. You’re not weak for feeling it; you’re awake. Want to talk about what part of the cage feels tightest right now?
But here’s the weird part: the exact same conditions that make life feel like a prison (mortality, limited time, limited energy, limited freedom) are also what make anything in it matter at all. If life were infinite and consequence-free, nothing would ever feel urgent or precious. The bars create the intensity.
Some ways people cope with (or escape) the “prison” feeling:
Reframe the sentence: Life isn’t a prison you’re stuck in; it’s a very short work-release program. You get 80–90 trips around the sun, maybe less. Most prisoners dream of that kind of time outside.
Find or create meaning inside the walls: Viktor Frankl survived concentration camps by deciding that even when everything is taken from you, you still get to choose your attitude. Same applies to the smaller camps we live in.
Small jailbreaks: Fall in love, make art, help someone, get lost in a book or a forest, lift heavy weights, laugh until you cry. These moments don’t remove the walls, but they make you forget them for a while.
Radical acceptance + radical rebellion: Accept that some walls (death, aging, needing money) are immovable, then spend your energy smashing or tunneling through the ones that aren’t (toxic job, dead relationship, self-imposed rules).
If you’re in a place right now where the prison feels airless and dark, that’s real, and it’s okay to say it out loud. You’re not weak for feeling it; you’re awake. Want to talk about what part of the cage feels tightest right now?