The birth rate collapse is a prisoners dilemma

[FairnessandEquality]

Everyone has a theory about why people stopped having kids. The economy. Housing. Phones. Feminism. Men. Governments have bet hundreds of billions on those theories and lost every time.

This is a different explanation. It doesn't start with money, it doesn't need a villain, and once you see it you'll see it in every couple you know, including the one you're in.

The uncomfortable part isn't the cause. It's what it means if nothing can fix it.