Venting This New Year's Eve is a grim reminder of my lack of social capital

[FairnessandEquality]

Depends how you live it because its not always bad.

For xample, the guy that married my sister did christmas alone for over 20 years, and he went hunting and disregarded any social convention till he married. He wasnt "loser" he had his company, hired 35 people, he was doing alright, he simply was doing what he wanted to do.

So he was living "the life". And after marriage he had to cope with all these normie routine, and a body ageing, and so on. He can still run in the mountain do his stuff, but body agepill hits everyone.

Now I challenge everyone to say all these decades of that guy were "failure". Or my life, call me "failure", try it. It wont work.

How about people who suffer this stuff? Well whats curious to me, is they dont really do anything to change it. Because if you want, theres homeless shelters or theres places where people be glad to have 1 more helping hand to give a happy christmas to the outcasts.

I think it feels threatening for normal people to do this, they would feel mismatched among the hobos and shelters and diners with strangers. Its scary to look at yourself and think "im like them" like these hobos and absolute outcasts, which is why the complainers on the internet will not do it.

Problem is, thats the option available. Or, you can reach the level of someone who disregards norms for his pleasure. Its a sad life what your living, its like be in the middle of 2 worlds, and paralyzed. Perhaps I can teach you some artcelling copes.

You live in Italy it's more cultured than convict Australia

 

[porco-dddio]

You live in Italy it's more cultured than convict Australia

yeah the city where this was happening was weird, very very high culture, but also small place, and has contradictions.

The place gave me some lessons about real life patriarchy, but is a living organism that narrates itself for a timespan that is +-400 years of collective memory.

 

[FairnessandEquality]

yeah the city where this was happening was weird, very very high culture, but also small place, and has contradictions.

The place gave me some lessons about real life patriarchy, but is a living organism that narrates itself for a timespan that is +-400 years of collective memory.

I see. Could you summarize what you feel about the OP ?

 

[porco-dddio]

I see. Could you summarize what you feel about the OP ?

No idea, I dont know mr tabula rasa very well.

Based on his or her messages seems a conondrum, some life in an asphalt prison, and I read similarities with hikkikomori japan, and people who suffer isolation and cripping paralysis, for reasons that arent easy to explain.

I was abit arrogant earlier, I lied. I know that some environments do not really allow any other outcome other than be shut-in, and destroyed by all around you.

But yes I do think there is something you can do. I dont know what can give your morale back.

 

[FairnessandEquality]

No idea, I dont know mr tabula rasa very well.

Based on his or her messages seems a conondrum, some life in an asphalt prison, and I read similarities with hikkikomori japan, and people who suffer isolation and cripping paralysis, for reasons that arent easy to explain.

I was abit arrogant earlier, I lied. I know that some environments do not really allow any other outcome other than be shut-in, and destroyed by all around you.

But yes I do think there is something you can do. I dont know what can give your morale back.

He's in a Western country but it has generous welfare

So there's good copes.